Dear girls, marry someone who has money, but more importantly marry someone who can lovingly spend it on you.
Dont be deceived, money is not proportional to love.
If a guy earns 17,000 and spends 10,000 on you monthly...and yet you dump him for a guy who spends 50,000 on you when he earns over 2,000,000, i assure you; you're making a grave mistake. The first guy is sacrificing so much to make you comfortable while the former isn't even feeling it.
Love is not measured by the amount of money a guy spends on you, but by size of his heart, by the size of what he sacrifices to make you feel comfortable and cared for.
When i hear girls say "they prefer to cry in a Lamborghini than to laugh in a keke" i just laugh because I'm quite sure they don't know what they're wishing for...(this will be widely discussed later)

Secondly, Marry someone who is striving for excellence in every aspect of his life.
A man who is striving for excellence mentally, someone you can have any kind of conversation with, who can stimulate you mentally.
A man who can provide you with necessary psychological and mental security, a man whose bank of knowledge can always aid you in times of indecision.
Someone you can always seek advice from even if its about about your own job.
Not a singular minded guy who cant even understand your non verbal languages.

Marry someone who is striving for
spiritual excellence.
Do not be "unequally yoked"....
Building a home with an unbeliever is disaster.
A man is naturally the head of a family and spiritually he is an high priest.
So,  marry a Godfearing man who'd help you grow spiritually. Who you can pray together and wage spiritual warfare with.

Cling to a man who is sensitive enough to understand what you go through as a woman,
someone who will endure your worst; nagging and rants, but strong enough to keep you in control.
Someone who'd be there for you in the darkest of times.

Find a man with integrity, who understands the true meaning of companionship. a man who'll try his best to be faithful to you. Not the one who'd turn you into a prayer warrior by virtue of his infidelity.
An ideal man is supposed to make other women envy his wife...she is supposed to be his pride and prize, not his guard dog lol

Marry a man who is family oriented, who will be a good father to your kids, a protector and leader.
Someone with a good sense of humour, who can conjure a smile on your lips anytime.
Not some stiff_faced spiv who'll run the family like an official company....except you're a stiff_faced spiff too😂😂

You need a man you can respect, i mean he has to be worthy of respect, he shouldn't demand it.

Flee from men who has the tendency to hurt or physically assault you.
A man was supposed to use his strength to protect and defend his woman, not use it against her.

Finally, marry someone who'd support you in your dreams and aspirations. Someone who'd be there for you,  who'd provide the needed morale and encouragement for you to achieve your goals in life.

Now, be sure you are someone who is striving for excellence yourself.
Make sure your idea of success isn't limited to education alone.
That you also strive to be financially capable, so you wont be
a burden to your man.
That you also strive to be spiritually
active and relevant.
That you know how to manage a home, and make a man feel comfortable and respected.

Yes,  happiness in marriage does not depend on finding the ideal mate,  it also depends on being the ideal mate.