In the previous article, serious medical considerations before marriage was highlighted.
Chief of them are; genotype, STD and blood group testing.
Now it is also important to know the medical history of your intending spouse/their health status quo.
*fertility test is imperative; The fruit of marriage is offspring. Should your spouse be incapable of doing so, its important you know before putting on the *no go back* ring. so you know how to deal with the consequences.
*knowing the medical history of your intending spouse is also important. For example if your spouse is asthmatic, diabetic, cancerous or has a tendency of high BP or hypertension, You should know.
This will help determine how you treat them in the relationship/marriage. Such spouses with serious medical issues require extra care and supervision in the marriage/relationship.
OTHER PREDISPOSITIONS;
In science it is proven that opposite do attract, but for marriage to work out couples must have a lot of things on the same page.
Spiritual life; Marriage is both a physical and a spiritual union. Couples should atleast share the same spiritual and dogmatic inclination. I'm not condemning marrying outside your denomination. I've seen where a moslem converts to Christianity on the grounds of marriage, embraces the religion and becomes a devout Christian wife.
My Mom was a Methodist, but now she's a more devout Catholic than Dad whom she followed. Yes, there should be a compromise, it doesn't matter who does.
This will ensure spiritual bonding.
It is said that "the family that prays together stays together". Its actually not nice seeing couples go separate churches. Who would the children follow?
On such cases praying like a family becomes awkward. And spiritual disagreement among couples often open the door for many other dissensus in the family.
Extended family; Marriage is undoubtedly between two consenting adults. But it is important to know the family you are marrying from or into.
Are you welcomed into the family?
No matter the depth of love you have for your intending spouse, if you're not welcomed in their family, you should reconsider. Either you earn their love and open arms, or you elope lol
More so, there should be an understanding as to whether extended family members are welcomed in your home.
whether your spouse truly sees your siblings as his/her own by law and by heart.
Whether your spouse sees your parents as his/her own by law and by heart.
Many a marriage alienates people from their family, friends and loved ones, be wise.
Sexuality ; Your spouse is not just a playmate, companion, muse, partner but also explicitly your sex-mate.
Therefore he/she should be sexually attractive to you any time, any where.
And couples should be able to maintain a healthy, happy and vigorous sex life.
So before walking down the aisle, you should ask/answer these questions;
1. Is your spouse sexually attractive to you?
2. Can they satisfy you sexually?
Within these questions lies the reason for a lot of marital infidelity, divorce and sexual tension.
So find answers to this questions, except you're a virgin preserving yourself for le wedding night, if not, you might only have yourself to blame.
Also there is an option of dialogue, of "teaching" your spouse your sexual preferences and how they can satisfy you and vise versa.
There is also the option of consulting a sex therapist.
This will be widely discussed in subsequent publications.
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