I stumbled upon this story on the net and thought i should analyse it.
The story goes thus:

"One evening last week, my wife and I were getting into bed.
Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, 'I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me.'
I said, 'WHAT??!!
What was that?!'
So she says the words that every husband on the planet dreads to hear...
'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.'
She responded to my puzzled look by saying, 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?'

Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.
The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, 'Lets get a pair for each outfit.'
We went on to the jewellery department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis.
I think I threw her for a loop when I said, 'That's fine, honey.' She was so excited.
Smiling with anticipation, she finally said, 'I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier.'
I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, 'No honey, I don't feel like it.'
Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped, 'WHAT?'
I then said, 'Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.'
And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, 'Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?'"

COUNSEL:
This story is a clear indication of male and female primary needs.
1. A man above all needs sex.
He does not want sex,  he needs it.
A need is something you can't do without, something that is wired into your system. Something that nature created to make a man want a woman: and it is the affinity for sex.
Its not even as if men enjoy sex the way women do,  we dont. It is biologically proven that there are more nerve endings in the female genitalia than the male and women experience multiple orgasms compared to the short notice ejaculation of males lol.
But the drive for sex is greater in man because nature designed it ti checkmate the emotional independence of man.

On the other hand,  a woman needs love and attention.
Its not a want and she doesn't need to ask for it,  she needs it. She needs to be pampered,  cared for,  appreciated, protected and provided for.

The natural dynamic of this is that the man cares for the woman,  pampers her, buys her needs, loves her in hopes that she will satisfy his sexual need.

It is therefore very unfair for couples to deny their spouse of these needs.
I know most female would condemn the man for his retribution. I too condemn him,  he probably must have gone too far,  but I'm sure he couldn't find no better way to demonstrate to the wife the exact way he felt.

More so, a gentleman should understand the sexual dynamics of his(a) woman.
Most of the times,  their refusal to indulge is their way of telling us "please seduce me into the mood".😉😉
Like i earlier pointed out,  women like to be pampered and coaxed into everything, even sex. And the mistake most husbands do is to assume they have an outright right to sex anytime, anywhere without the normal sweet talk, foreplay and romance they used to do when they were yet singles. No being married doesn't mean you stop being romantic. A ring in the third finger doesn't diminish a woman's affinity for attention, care and love.

And women should understand that a man hates being leashed.
If you deny him sex as a punishment for something he did or has not done, be rest assured that he might be forced to get it elsewhere. This is the foundation of broken marriages. (I'll talk more on this later)

Finally this is a warning to singles,  if you're not married, don't try to fulfil the responsibilities of a wife/husband to your boy/girlfriend.
Don't waste yourself on anybody who's not your husband or wife...except on a beneficial agreement.
This is merely to avoid a scenario where a breakup will seem unbearable as if its a divorce.!